Hello, I am a 20 year old sub, and my name is Pet. Lately sir and I have been talking and he's been having some issues with making me cry. He doesn't like it and it's impeding on our bdsm lifestyle together. Is there any way we can fix this, besides master going easier on me? I truly do like it rough, they are tears of joy.
AnonymousThank you so much for your question, dear! If you ever feel the need to speak off the record or have questions please feel free to email me. I’m not the most experienced sub by far but I do think its important to build relationships with other subs who you can talk to about your relationships or “relations” … so feel free to email me at amastersgirl at gmail dot com.
So… I cry sometimes when I’m doing a rough scene as well. Not every time and never not ever with someone that I am new to playing with. First, like in every BDSM situation you have to sit down and have the conversation with your dom. The #1 thing in bdsm relationships is communication. If you don’t talk to each other and share what you’re thinking or feeling or what worked and didn’t work you’re going to end up in situations where something very much doesn’t work and could go wrong. So… communication is key.
My recommendation is to sit down and have a chat. 1. what is it about him making you cry that bothers him? Is it because he thinks he’s hurting you? Is it because he thinks he’s going too far? Is it because he doesn’t trust that you’ll safeword when it does get to that point? Or is he maybe an old fashioned guy who hates the idea of making a girl cry? All of these could be a factor. 2. Explain to him what is happening to you when you are crying. Is it a sense of release or relief? One thing -for me is absolutely about release - he’ll push me to my limit and the pain is really really hard and the scene is at its peak as are my emotions … so when he stops and releases me I release myself emotionally too. Or in many ways its about giving in or letting go. I’ll cry if I trust him and love him and want to allow myself to feel vulnerable with him. He’ll push me to that deep hard place where its really rough and it’s almost like he’s breaking a horse ;) …. and I’ll cry from the fact that I’m giving in - which is another kind of release for me.
So I think - figure out what is going on with you and why it can actually be a good thing - or something that shows that you feel an emotional intimacy as well as a physical intimacy with your dom. See what he says about where his concerns come from. Have you ever been pushed to a safeword with him before? Sometimes if you haven’t - then they can fear that you won’t. One of the first things I do when I’m playing with a new partner that is someone I’m having an actual serious bdsm relationship with is I’ll ask him to push me to my safeword in a scene. I do this for two reasons - 1. it helps him know how my body is going to respond and react and what it can take. 2. It helps him understand what my limits are and that when pushed to that limit I will tell him to stop.
But I think there is also a chance that he has a limit too for what he’s willing to do and you have to figure out what that limit is for him and what’s behind it.
Be well - and big hugs! Let me know how it turns out or if I can do anything. And don’t forget the aftercare :)
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do you post yourself as well or just share and post what you find?
When I have had more time I post photos of myself or photos of friends - but my schedule lately hasn’t really allowed for it.
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There is something so naughty about this. So urgent and desirable. And we can only guess what his expression looking down at her is.
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